6. Attend Group Therapy
Struggling with relating to people or feeling isolated? Consider enrolling in group therapy. This is a special type of therapy in which a small group of people meet with a professional therapist to work together on common problems. Consistent research says that group therapy is just as effective as individual therapy, and at times more effective. Group therapy is particularly helpful in supporting social wellness by reducing feelings of isolation, developing community, and improving interpersonal relationship patterns. If that isn’t enough to get you to go, it can be more affordable than individual therapy too! Use Frame Therapy as your resource to start this exploration and discuss with your therapist if attending group therapy is right for you.
7. Set that boundary you know you need to
Boundaries are what create your life and they are essential to developing better social relationships by setting clear expectations. Set the scene by asking to talk then state your needs calmly and repeat them if you have to. Not sure where to begin with boundary setting? We’re here to help!
8. Learn How to ask for help in a clear and productive way
The fact is, we need each other when we are stressed. Opening up when you’re having a difficult time can build closeness in a relationship. Practice reaching out and letting others know that you have been struggling. Make it clear what you are doing about it and then ask for small and manageable help such as a quick phone call or suggestions on books to read.
Don’t forget that living in a pandemic has people feeling burned out so learning how to talk about your problems is essential, too. Learn the difference between emotional dumping and authentic reaching out. If you need help to decompress, check in with your friend first and ask this: “I really need to vent, do you have space for that right now?” Now could also be a valuable time to explore therapy.
9. De-triangle yourself from conflict
Always getting stuck in the middle and don’t know how to make an exit? You’re not alone because this is a common relationship problem. People naturally pull others in when their relationship feels stressed or unstable. However, getting pulled in can leave you feeling stressed about choosing a side and anxious about solving a problem that was not yours to begin with. Next time your family member calls you to vent about a conflict with someone else, practice gentle redirection by asking, “Have you considered bringing this up to them instead of me?”